Friday, March 26, 2010

Iced Tea Memories



I gave it a year. I tried to be supportive. I was willing to let the voters have their voices heard. I, too, hoped for a promised 'change' for the better...

I had to give up iced-tea when I was 18. I was told it was necessary to qualify for a temple recommend. It was extra torment because I was engaged to be married in the scorching heat of the middle of July! You see, I was hooked. Iced tea was like the Mormon's Kool-Aid when I was growing up. It was the beverage of choice for a summer thirst quencher. It was even, as Tevya would say, "Tradition"! Towards the end of May, out would come Grandma Elna with her 4-quart glass tea jar. Along with the blooming lilacs, it was a sure sign that the school year was ending and summer was close. Grandma would almost ceremoniously place it in it's prestigious resting spot -atop the cement & bricked barbeque on the back lawn in the direct sunshine. We were forbidden to ever touch it. (For a woman of 4' 11" tall and 104# soaking wet, we always knew Grandma meant business! She was the object lesson of why dynamite is packed in small containers.) So, we watched and waited from the seats of the swingset and teetor-totter as the tea bags were allowed to 'steep'. Fresh lemons sliced, cups of sugar carefully measured, and ice cubes released from metal trays were our signals that the 'brew' had reached its peak of perfection! We'd listen for the sound of the back screen door and watch. Grandma, in her kitchen apron, would walk across the lawn, untwist the top of the jar, dip in her wooden spoon, and gingerly taste the concoction. She'd roll it around in her mouth and savor it much like a professional wine tester. All eyes watched for the approving smack of her lips and 'the nod'. That was the long-awaited signal to all of us grandkids. The race to the kitchen cupboard was on! The objective was to be one of the four lucky winners to reach the coveted tall, brightly-colored aluminum tumblers first. Nobody wanted to be stuck with the pale pastel, plastic ones. That meant last in line for 'the pouring' and left holding a much smaller container. It was nearly our family's right of passage to be first in the line for, through the years, the barbeque lineup usually went from oldest to youngest cousin. A few years later, Lipton made a store-bought version that made an 'instant' variety. After that, our tradition ceased. Iced tea was always ready in a pitcher in the fridge-just waiting for pouring. (Wouldn't you know it? Just as I was almost the oldest cousin around?)
I've not touched iced tea for 35 years, but in a restaurant, during the heat of a summer day, when I see a lemon slice perched precariously on the rim of a clear, ice-filled glass of it, my mouth still waters. (I told you I was hooked!) Floods of cousin memories and fun times fill my mind and I see my sweet Grandma Elna...The warm summer sun is hitting her iced tea jar and her beautiful red hair. And there I am...about 8th in line, holding a 4-ounce lavendar plastic tumbler reaching out for my portion of summer ambrosia.
So, you're asking: What's my point? Well, I am just wondering... do they serve the herbal type at the Tea Party conventions??? God Bless my dear America! We are going to need it!

Sunday, March 14, 2010

Eye to Eye


Jake and I have never seen eye to eye on mothering, but as Robert Munsch said in his book "Love You Forever", 'as long as I'm living, my baby you'll be.' So, like it or not, even at 22, (yes, it's been a full year since I blogged) I am still giving him advice. You can listen in...
Son, every boy needs adventure. As soon as I had my first & only 'man cub', I began to learn that. It was fun to watch you tromp around in your daddy's shoes, explore the back yard, wrestle with 10 puppies, and climb the apple tree 'all by meself'! And then it started to change. You took a flying leap from the top of the playhouse and discovered that, even with your cape, you 'couldn't fly like Batman'. And I discovered I would not always be there to catch you when you fell. It broke your arm - and my heart. No wonder you resist mothering-you had 4 of them! Your sisters babied 'King Jake' through that broken arm and many other adventures followed. I cringed when you got that B-B gun and headed off into the hollow in search of 'prey'. We had lots of missing flashlights, binoculars, and cookies when you'd trudge off to Rindlisbaker's hill with your backpack. I really hated 'gun safety' time and 12 was a birthday I dreaded. Your aim was off just trying to pee in the toilet and your dad handed you a real live gun! How is a mother suppose to deal with that? Hunting seasons came and went. I held my breath and you survived. A brief episode of skateboarding gave way to Scouting adventures and then, of all things, 'RODEO'. Willy Nelson didn't say HOW to prevent it, he just sang it like I should know. Well, 'Mama' failed. I 'let you pick guitars and drive them old trucks' when I wanted to 'make {you} be a {vet} and such'. It's true - 'They'll never stay home and...' they certainly don't want mothering!
I don't want you to fall. I want you to find your dreams in this adventure. But, I hope you see enough of the world to know for yourself that the gospel is true. I want the distance between Texas and home to make you value your family and cause you to live what you've been taught.
Stealing a line from "The Adventures of Huck Finn", Huck said: 'Pray for me? I reckoned if she knowed me she'd take a job that was more nearer her size. But I bet she done it, just the same--she was just that kind. She had the grit to pray for Judas if she took the notion--there warn't no back-down to her." So Jake, that's what this mother will be doing at least 2 times a day and I reckon I ain't ever the kind that's gonna back down from mothering either.